When you set small goals, they’re achievable. And you build momentum and confidence. This strengthens a growth mindset and helps your child feel accomplished. And, that’s the tip of the iceberg — so when you set small goals, they add up to big wins.

But what if you have BIG projects looming?

Here’s the process I use to set small goals:

1. Help your child set ONE doable goal for the day. If your kiddo doesn’t know where to begin, ask them to brain-dump every “to-do” on a sheet of paper. Then, help them pick the most important goal from those ideas.
2. Now, take a close look at the goal.
3. Are there actually smaller tasks within that goal? Break down the big goal into small tasks and give each a time estimate. Then enter that work time in a calendar. 
4. Once there is dedicated time for each achievable task, the process becomes much more enjoyable! Pro tip: Add a little reward for each win!

Ask yourself whether the time estimates were accurate. The more you pay attention to how long things take, the more realistic you can be in the future.

Make sure that you build that positive energy by celebrating each win.

Positively reinforce the mindset that effort matters. That will help your child notice their accomplishments. And they’ll have a full tank of self-esteem that empowers them to keep growing!

I can’t wait to hear how this new strategy goes for you and your family!

Truth be told… The year I moved from second to third grade, I was both double-promoted AND held back a grade.  

Because my family moved to a new house, that meant I transferred from public school to private school. The rumor in my public school classroom, at the end of second grade, was that I was so ‘smart,’ I’d be double-promoted from second to fourth grade!  I LOVED this idea.  But then I got word of our move, and I was completely underwhelmed and disappointed.

Would the new school realize how ‘smart’ I was?  Would they decide I really needed to be in fourth grade, not third?

When I arrived on the first day of third grade at my new school, they promptly informed my parents that it might be a good idea to send me back to second grade.  There were a number of things I was behind on….phonics, memorizing my multiplication facts, not to mention my daily prayers.  The teachers were going to give me a ‘trial run,’ and if I could catch up, I could stay in 3rd grade.

I was sorely disappointed and felt betrayed by my previous teachers.

Had they lied to me?  Was I really dumb, and they didn’t have the heart to tell me?

I guess I did ok in my new private school classroom, because I never got demoted to second grade.

However, to this day, I really question how I could be smarter than the average third grader in one learning environment and severely lacking in another.

Now I know as an adult that public and private schools can have widely different expectations for the same grade level, but as a child, my foundation and understanding of myself as a learner completely crumbled.  I don’t think I really ever fully recovered until graduate school. By that time, well into my thirties, I knew how I learned best and that given the right supports and enough interest in the topic, I could learn anything.

I wasted many years wondering why I was so ‘dumb.’

Why I was consistently behind all my peers? 

Why did I never really fit in?

I felt like I was always playing catch-up.

Maybe you have a similar story?  Maybe your child has a similar story?

It’s important to keep talking to our children about different types of intelligence. And to let them know that even if their circumstances change, it doesn’t change who they are. They don’t suddenly become dumber. It just means that they get an opportunity to broaden their perspective and rise to the challenge. And, when they do, they will see their strengths and confidence levels soar! 

Here is my simple check-in process to close out the school year positively. I help you take a look at your academic progress and figure out if you need to make adjustments before the last day of school.

If these end-of-year challenges sound familiar, this check-in process will be especially helpful:

• Your child is rationalizing away extra work.
• Classes have already moved on to busy work
• The school year was particularly taxing for your child, and you want them to have a well-deserved break.
• You’re tired.

So, check out my video to create your end-of-year evaluation and celebration with your child.

Spring has sprung! It is so easy for students, teachers, and parents alike to throw their hands up and be done with the school year (and all that comes with it!) But there is so much good that can still be done with the time left in the academic year.

But how can we keep going?

I was inspired by my own morning routine to help you finish your school year strong. Most days, I try to have a Miracle Morning. Part of that is making three lists

1. Three things I’m grateful for
2. Three things that are a success (choose one and memorialize it in a way that’s fun for you!)
3. Three things that can be improved (choose one and devise an actionable plan to work on it!)

None of these things need to be monumental! My grateful list often includes my morning coffee or my pets. My success lists usually include that I got out of bed early enough to write! And my improvement list regularly has “positive self-talk” or items on my to-do list. None of these are giant or earth-shattering. They are reminders, and they’re only for YOU!

Will you follow this template, or create your own with your child? How did you decide to memorialize your child’s successes? Let me know what you’re focusing on improving in the comments below, so I can offer you additional support.